Choices...
From the desktop of Nathanael Fraix
Sometimes we'd like to live in the illusion that we have the freedom to choose whatever we want, whatever we like... whatever we need. Other times the illusion is somewhat shattered by the harsh reality of life, but yet we try to choose what we think is right.
No matter how we choose, our choices would always bring consequences. But if we decide to take the wrong choice, a choice that isn't particularly wise or exactly brilliant, but nevertheless the choice we wish.
Do we have the right to take that choice?
Why?
So we can learn from our mistakes perhaps?
Easier thought than done, but parenting doesn't come any easier these days.
Lately I've been trying to put myself inside my dad's shoes (figuratively) and I've been watching how my sister (who's back from Australia for a 8 week vacation) been doing things that I'm not so... comfortable with.
Hanging around with the bunch I'm not particularly fond of, trying to have her way or no way at all... my sister's actions been causing a great deal of distress to my Dad which affected his health.
Don't know what details I can divulge, but I'm glad that people been showing up and giving attention and care to my dad while my sister been doing other things and ironically feels jealous towards them. Well, not them, but more particularly one or two individuals.
I have a friend (who I may have mentioned in this blog before) who I consider a very close friend and much like a sister. My dad considers her as a daughter, and she is very appreciative of the warmth and attention my family been providing to her. Can't help considering as a sister, although the fact is my biological sister is somewhat jealous of her.
Ironically, sometime ago my dad needed help to go to the hospital. He asked Lita to drive him there but she declined, stating she was tired (having a headache) and needed rest. My dad understand and let her so. Later on Kirana (my friend's name) drove Dad to the hospital while Lita went to the mall with her friends. I don't have the exact chronological order of the things, but just say that did made Lita jealous of Kirana, while my Dad was really upset of Lita. If Lita was tired, why did she go to the mall.
Things are somewhat complicated.
But back to the topic of choices.
How do we go through with our lives watching the people we love occasionally make apparently wrong choice?
Sometimes we'd like to live in the illusion that we have the freedom to choose whatever we want, whatever we like... whatever we need. Other times the illusion is somewhat shattered by the harsh reality of life, but yet we try to choose what we think is right.
No matter how we choose, our choices would always bring consequences. But if we decide to take the wrong choice, a choice that isn't particularly wise or exactly brilliant, but nevertheless the choice we wish.
Do we have the right to take that choice?
Why?
So we can learn from our mistakes perhaps?
Easier thought than done, but parenting doesn't come any easier these days.
Lately I've been trying to put myself inside my dad's shoes (figuratively) and I've been watching how my sister (who's back from Australia for a 8 week vacation) been doing things that I'm not so... comfortable with.
Hanging around with the bunch I'm not particularly fond of, trying to have her way or no way at all... my sister's actions been causing a great deal of distress to my Dad which affected his health.
Don't know what details I can divulge, but I'm glad that people been showing up and giving attention and care to my dad while my sister been doing other things and ironically feels jealous towards them. Well, not them, but more particularly one or two individuals.
I have a friend (who I may have mentioned in this blog before) who I consider a very close friend and much like a sister. My dad considers her as a daughter, and she is very appreciative of the warmth and attention my family been providing to her. Can't help considering as a sister, although the fact is my biological sister is somewhat jealous of her.
Ironically, sometime ago my dad needed help to go to the hospital. He asked Lita to drive him there but she declined, stating she was tired (having a headache) and needed rest. My dad understand and let her so. Later on Kirana (my friend's name) drove Dad to the hospital while Lita went to the mall with her friends. I don't have the exact chronological order of the things, but just say that did made Lita jealous of Kirana, while my Dad was really upset of Lita. If Lita was tired, why did she go to the mall.
Things are somewhat complicated.
But back to the topic of choices.
How do we go through with our lives watching the people we love occasionally make apparently wrong choice?
posted by A Nathanael Tjoa at
1:13 AM
1 Comments:
I have also thought and wonder abt choices too. God gave us choices and He let us make wrong choices knowing it even before we do it. Why? We are stubborn creatures and always think we are smart and will make right choices. He knows we need to find out for ourselves the consequences we made before we can change and admit our weaknesses. He wants us to learn from our mistakes and hopefully change for the better. Above all, He wants us to be totally dependent on Him and that includes seeking His help in making the right choices. Yes, Arvin, it hurts to see loved ones make wrong choices but we can only do that much - advise, explain and encourage. Eventually, they will find us interfering and nagging! The best thing we can do for them is to PRAY for them and commit them to God. Let His Holy Spirit minister to them. It's very caring and loving of you to be so concern abt Elita. Keep it up!
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